Plenty of Work, if you're willing

Sometimes it's easier to quit than to make the effort. What amazes me is how many people quit without ever making an honest effort. If you want it, pursue it with everything you have...not for a few hours, or a few weeks, or a few months. Give it 100% of your effort, pursue it like it is the most important thing in your world. There are plenty of opportunities, just not enough people willing to work at making them into realities.

10 Ways to Improve your test-taking ability and your grades

One of the interesting things about Fridays is sitting under the smoking canopy and watching the students come out from their exams all stressed and bleary-eyed. They mumble about the teachers. They complain about the questions that were different from what they had studied. But mostly, the students sit around kicking themselves in the rear for all the questions they knew but somehow forgot when the test was in front of them. I know. I do understand. I was once a poor test-taker too. And, like most students, the harder I studied and the more I wanted to do well, the more frustrated I usually was with my performance.

So having been through this a few times, here are a few little things that I have found to help relieve that performance anxiety and actually improve test-taking skills between 10% and 20%.

1) Read the whole test before trying to answer any of the questions. An athlete needs to stretch and warm-up before competing on the field, you need to do the same with your mind. By reading the entire test, without worrying whether or not you know the answers, you will often see words, phrases, and hints that serve as triggers to other answers. As a teacher, I find it difficult to write a thorough examination that does not include a question that serves as an answer to other questions.

2) Answer the questions you know first and then go back and either figure out or guess at the rest. Part of what causes stress and frustration is a lack of confidence. If an instructor puts the easy questions first, the class will score significantly better than if the teacher places the difficult questions first. When you let doubt enter into your mind, even the easiest questions can become difficult because you start to doubt your own knowledge and preparation. Answer the ones you know first and you will get the easy ones right and will be in a better mental state to tackle the challenging ones.

3) Once the test starts you cannot change what you know and you cannot change what is on the test. Relax, do your best, and don’t worry about the results. When you worry, your body produces more adrenaline. Adrenaline causes your blood vessels to contract, which restricts the flow of blood to parts of your body, including your brain. Blood delivers the Oxygen that your brain needs to properly function. So when you stress about the test you actually deprive your body of the Oxygen it needs to perform well. This is what causes those lovely “mental farts” we all experience from time to time.

One thing that I found that helped me let go of my stress was that whenever I was faced with a test, I would close my eyes, grasp the cross I always wear around my neck and say the following prayer: “God help me remember what I know, and help me guess really well at the rest of this stuff.” Whether it was divine intervention or shifting responsibility for the results to someone else, it caused my average test score to increase by 15%.

4) If you are a smoker, consider chewing a piece of Nicorette. There are studies that show that nicotine dependant people have better memory recall when they are given access to Nicotine. Chances are that when you were studying you allowed yourself to smoke. To pull that information back out effectively you need to try and place your body in a similar condition to what is was like when you were studying. (BTW- stick with the 2mg version because the 4 mg version will probably make you anxious and jumpy.)

5) While on the mental conditioning thing, place a few drops of the essential oils of Rosemary and Peppermint in your room as you study. Rosemary helps with memory and recall while Peppermint helps with mental alertness. As few drops in a diffuser is all it takes. To enhance the effects and trigger your recently acquired knowledge, make a small sachet with Peppermint and Rosemary essential oils. A slight exposure to the aroma will help trigger your memory. The human body and mind react to smells at a level 400 times below the level of being conscious of those smells. It doesn’t take much and no one else will probably notice the slight fragrance.

6) Drink half a beer before you take the test. This is again based upon the relaxation principles above. Half a beer should be enough to help you relax so you can access the information easier while not being enough to significantly impair your ability to function. More beer does not help!

7) Accept the fact that everything you’ve everything you’ve ever read, seen, heard, or thought has been recorded by your brain. In fact information is recorded by your brain at a rate equivalent to about 3 times the recording speed of your camcorder (approx. 80 -90 frames per second). Once you know the information is somewhere in your brain, it is only a matter of recalling it instead of worrying if you can actually remember it. Confidence leads to better performance in almost every area of our lives.

8) Do not change your answers. If your brain knows the answers, quit letting fear and doubt make you second-guess it. I have tracked students for 10 years and 80% of changed answers are changed from right answers to wrong answers. Trust your mind and trust your instincts. That is how the brain communicates to us.

9) Bring your teacher Oatmeal-raisin cookies! Subjective tests, especially where partial credit may be awarded is based upon the teacher’s mood much more than most of us would like to admit. I remember grading papers about 8 years ago and being frustrated at the answers some of my students were giving me. As I placed a big, red X by an answer, I thought that perhaps I had given a similar answer by another student partial credit. I stopped what I was doing, double-checked and discovered that I had in fact done so. I now always grade subjective tests at least twice to make sure my mood does not influence my ability to be consistent and impartial in my grading. So, although cookies will not influence how I grade your paper, they may help keep me in a good mood.

10)Your test score only shows how well you were at taking a particular test. It has nothing to do with how intelligent or capable you are, nor does it affect your value as a human being. I know your teachers, parents, and peers may have used your test-taking abilities as means of judging and condemning you, but if that’s what they want to do, they will always find some way to do so. Your test score only represents how well you did at a particular time in your life on a particular test. Don’t let a bad past experience condemn your efforts now. Grades are merely numbers; your true intelligence and education will be revealed in your ability to apply the knowledge you’ve obtained in creative, useful, and practical ways. Education is about growth not about grades, so take a deep breathe and remember, in the words of John Belushi,  that in the long-run, “It just doesn’t matter! It just doesn’t matter!”.

Throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor

 It happened 15 years ago. It was the scariest thing I had ever done in my life, and probably the most important. I made a choice. I took a chance. I quit making excuses, and I have never regretted that decision I made.

In my senior year of high school, I developed a stuttering problem. It was not a physical ailment, it was a mental one. I became absolutely petrified of speaking in front of an audience. Whenever I had to speak, I would trip on my words, go light-headed, drip sweat from my brow, and pray for it to all be over as quickly as possible. To say it was something I did not like is an understatement. To say it was something I felt I might never be able to do and would never attempt was a more realistic assessment and I was absolutely fine with that. I would rather hide in fear than to go through the pain and agony of speaking in public.

That changed when my daughter entered the public school system. I did not like some of the decisions the school board was making in regards to my children’s education and I realized that I could 1) sit at home, complain, and do nothing, 2) speak up and look like a babbling idiot which wasn’t really a pleasant proposition, or 3) I could go through the painful process of learning the skills I needed to become an effective communicator. So for my 33^rd birthday, I attended a local Toastmaster’s meeting.

It was intimidating to watch people comfortably give impromptu talks, deliver beautifully prepared speeches, and then listen graciously while other people offered advise and critiques. I chose to hide in the back of the room and do as little as possible ,which is where I stayed for the next two months. Eventually, I ventured out and tried to take on a few roles and after 4 months of attending, I found the courage to deliver my first speech. It was a dreadful attempt. I was physically ill for two days worrying about it. When I spoke, sweat literally dripped from my face onto my note cards, and I had to add lib the ending because the ink started running on my hand-written speech. After it was over, I decided to quit.

Three weeks later, a friend convinced me to go back and give it another try. Time went by and I forced myself to deliver a second horrendous speech and again I quit. This went on for 9 months but for some strange reason I kept letting myself get talked into coming back. It took me two years to deliver the 10 manual speeches, but by the end of it all, I had developed some great friendships and knew I could control my fear enough to appear somewhat competent if I ever had to speak to an audience.

I stayed with the program for another year and a half and discovered that I was learning a great deal more than how to speak in front of a group. I learned to listen, to positively evaluate others, and to effectively think on my feet. I learned to manage a meeting, and then a  club, and eventually an entire area of clubs. I learned to develop leaders and maybe how to draw out the best in some individuals who were as desperate for a different life as I had originally been. But most importantly I learned that nothing is truly impossible if you are willing to persist and to keep trying.

For me, Toastmasters helped me better listen to and communicate with my daughters, clients, and co-workers. For me, Toastmasters gave me the confidence to speak publicly in order to advance my business and my career. For me, Toastmasters taught me to never give up on a lost cause who still was willing to do the difficult work of trying to grow and to change.

I mention all of this tonight for a few reasons.

1)    I know some people who are frustrated by life and by the challenges of trying to improve their future. It can be done if you just keep coming back and keep making an honest effort. “The pain of the change is soon forgotten once the rewards of the effort have (begun to be) realized.” - Zig Zigler I think

2)    No matter how far you have come or how good you think you are, there are still paths that can lead you farther... if you are willing to seek them out.

3)     Most limits in life exist only because you choose to place them upon yourself. These limits are often masked as excuses, poor timing, and bad luck.

4)    If you need skills to change, it doesn’t matter what you like or enjoy, go develop those skills. You may discover once you have gained competency, you actually enjoy those things you once dreaded (like writing, public speaking, and web design).

5)    Becoming a CTM in Toastmasters was more difficult than earning my college degree or my Eagle in scouting. Maybe because of this, I value it even more than I do those other two accomplishments, and I know for a fact it has done more for my career and my personal relationships than anything else I have ever attempted.

6)    There is a new Toastmaster’s club that meets the 2^nd and 4^th Monday of each month at 1:20 in the afternoon at Keiser University in Lakeland, Fl. It is a club that is open to students, faculty, alumni, and anyone else over 18 who is looking to improve the quality of their life and their potential for a better career. Please feel free to visit and participate.

“In 20 years you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do, than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sail. Explore! Dream! Discover!”  (Mark Twain) and quit making excuses to remain trapped by your fears and habits in a world of frustrating mediocrity.

It's time for some FUN!

FUN!!!!

Fun???

Fun. It’s that magical thing that gives meaning to life. It’s that thing that keeps the batteries recharged. It’s that missing ingredient that we seem to forget about when work, life, and school seem to be demanding all of our time. During the times when we feel we have too much to do, fun is the first thing that we willingly sacrifice. We feel guilty to take time out for fun and forget that an hour or two of fun will make us more productive in everything else we do.

I had a work-study who made a technically nice flier today. The information was well presented but the flier was BORING. I asked him about fun, and he couldn’t remember what it was. I have a grad student whom I mentor who was feeling overwhelmed this afternoon by life and years of study. She is making less than A’s this month because her work is flat and predictable. I mentioned that she needs to go have fun and she doesn’t feel she has time for it. A former student today was talking to me about feeling depressed because she works and takes care of her three children and can’t figure out what is wrong with her life. She too couldn’t remember fun and laughing outside of her existence with her children.

 I too had forgotten about our need for fun because I was swamped with grown-up responsibilities, until this past weekend. I spent some time with friends, rode around Stuart, FL for two days on a GoPet, and smiled and laughed like I haven’t in years. I came back to school this week with renewed energy, focus, and enthusiasm and have gotten more done in the past three days than I have in the last three weeks.

Life is short. Work and family can be demanding. Everyone expects more and more from us and so we hide in video games and YouTube and television and Facebook just to escape the pressure. But it doesn’t help does it? Instead, go fly a kite, laugh like a kid, buy a new toy, or something else you used to do when you were young. Fun is still there, you just have to rediscover it. And when you do, you’ll find that you actually have more time and energy than you’ve had in years because you are more creative, productive, and energetic.

Work hard and play hard is more than a mantra. It is the recipe for success in everything you do. Talk to you later, I am off to ride my very own GoPet around town for a few hours.

PS, - If you don’t know what a GoPet is, e-mail me (greg@getagopet.com), or visit http://www.GetaGoPet.com. I got so excited about having fun again that I am becoming a distributor for the company this evening, but that is a new blog and web site that will just have to wait until tomorrow.

Ten Easy Ways to Sabotage Your Career

1. Be conceited, ungrateful, or arrogant. Watch the leaders in any field and to a person, they always find time to say thank you, to share, and to listen.
   
2. Be vengeful, negative,  and deceitful, especially in public places. It’s always easy to find faults, but it takes talent and discipline to find solutions. Employers and clients need solutions not criticism.
   
3. Treat your online activity like the boy’s locker room. Everything you say or do online can and may eventually be seen by the people whose respect you need to earn. Acting and posting as if you are in eighth grade shows an future employer you are not yet mature enough to represent his or her firm.
   
4. Put cute messages or extremely long musical numbers on your answering machine. When a client or employer wants to speak to you they don’t want their time wasted. I know an excellent designer who has lost at least three interviews because you can’t leave her a message until you’ve sat through 90 seconds of a poorly recorded message. “I don’t have time for this. Next!”
   
5.  Dress and act as if you don’t care. If you don’t care enough to iron your shirt, to comb your hair, and to put a little polish on those shoes, then you don’t really care about the company for which you are hoping to work. It’s a matter of respect.
   
6. Go to the interview, presentation, or meeting unprepared. Research the company/client. Be prepared to not just answer questions but to ask intelligent ones as well. Reorganize your portfolio to show your future employer /client the work which is relevant to their business. Being prepared shows you care and are willing to earn the opportunity to work for the firm or individual.
   
7. Treat the receptionist like a peon. He or she doesn’t really count anyway and has no influence in the company. Right?
   
8.  Make people wait and be impatient if you are required to do so.  I remember my firm once lost a $10,000 web site because my sales person was ten minutes late and didn’t even bother to call. “If you don’t respect the value of my time, then you don’t respect my company.”
   
9.  Place your company information on a vehicle and then drive like a jerk. I seldom respond to vehicular advertising except when I make it a point never to work with a particular company because their driver cut me off in traffic.
   
10.  Don’t bother hand-writing a thank you note and following up with a phone call. Taking the time to say thank you isn’t really that important anymore and neither is the person who gave you an opportunity to work with them.
    
11. Send out mass e-mails and thank you notes. Everybody loves being treated like a number, so why not reaffirm this by showing some real insincerity. It's better to personally thank a few individuals at a time, by name, than to try and thank everybody with a generic mass mailing.

Yes, I know I can't count. Giving more than I promise is another one of those nasty habits I'm working on. :)

Stick a Fork In It !

One of the first things that I identified as a requirement when I started trying to develop my Latin American businesses was the need to attempt to communicate in a language that my customers understood.  In 1990, the first of the mass fax programs were now affordable as were the early attempts at translation programs. So I learned the software, spent  three months developing my leads list, and started faxing out monthly sales letters to the top 500 retailers in the Caribbean, South, and Central America. I translated these into Portuguese and Spanish with the help of the computer and started being referred to as the “fax man” when I finally met these future clients at trade shows.

One of the companies I represented was Retroneu , a higher end flatware company.  The top tier of their product line was branded as the “Landmark Collection”, bridal registry flatware that retailed for $150 - $200 per place setting.  I wrote a marvelous sales letter explaining why every top retailer should be carrying the magnificent  Landmark collection in their bridal departments.  I then proofed the letter, ran it through the translation software, and faxed it out.

Unfortunately, the program didn’t recognized the word Landmark and substituted its best guess which was “heap”. The literal translation for heap is mierda  (sp?).  So I sent out a letter to the merchandise managers, owners, and buyers of the major  Latin America retailers explaining why they should be carrying “un magnificante colleccion de mierda,” loosely translated as a marvelous pile of excrement.  I received more than 3 dozen responses within the next 2 days explaining my error.

I didn’t know it at the time, but that mistake did more to endear me to customers/prospects than almost anything I had done to that point. I became human. I was making an effort to communicate, however poorly, in their language. I opened more new accounts in the next few months than at any other time during that particular part of my sales career because I wasn’t another  indifferent salesman trying to make a sale, I was just another human trying to make a connection.

The reason I share this, is that it amazes me how many people don’t do things because they are afraid of making mistakes.  We learn the most from making mistakes, but sometimes during the process, we also make wonderful friendships because we care enough to try.  I’m sure that I’ll make plenty of mistakes as I try to be part of the transition from traditional marketing toward personally connecting with and listening to our individual, human customers. But I guess I’d rather look foolish than to be left alone and out of business. 

Go Ahead, Make my Day! I may make it worth your while.

How often have you been made to feel special? Really special ? Important, valued, respected, and appreciated? If you’re like me, then most likely it just doesn’t happen often enough. It’s funny how in our rush to collect contacts, to get noticed, to drive traffic, we often forget the most important thing: the human element. Who cares how many followers you have or friends you have if you get nothing from them? But if you aren’t getting anything from them, it is probably because you aren’t giving anything to them.

I went to a SND meeting for the first time last Friday, Stephen Komives  met me at the door. When I met him at the door, he said, “Hello, Greg. It is great to see you here today. Let me get your badge for you.” The enthusiasm and sincerity were real. I don’t know if he took the time to research a little about each of the 1^st time visitors that were at that meeting or not, but it certainly made me feel like he was genuinely interested in me, as a person.

Following a post or a blog, I sent a friend request to Bruce Ramsay  because his comments really seemed interesting and useful. I received an e-mail back that stated “Greg, you're an amazing person. It is my honor to be friends.” Wow, talking about making someone’s day! Yes, I want to be fiends with someone who is that thoughtful.

Of all the people I follow on Twitter, three have extended the hand of friendship with a direct message, just to say hello. Guess who I follow most closely?

And finally, from my campus president 5 minutes ago, “First of All – YOU ROCK and your students ROCK!  I love these. “ It is because of comments like these that our program is always willing to help out other departments on campus, the front office,  and the Chancellor’s office. Thanks, President Rogers.

The point is, the reason social networking became such a popular phenomenon is that we all got tired of feeling like, and being treated like, a number. We wanted to express ourselves, be noticed, connect with new people, learn and experience new things. But without the connection, are we accomplishing any of that?

It doesn’t take long to say thank you. It doesn’t take long to let someone know you appreciate them. It doesn’t take long to turn a chance meeting in cyberspace into an ally, a loyal customer, or even a good friend. Take the time to say thank you, take the time to recognize each contact as a valued, human being. It’s that little step that will do more for your career or business than all the friend collecting and retweeting in the world.

Here are a couple of other blogs that you might also find useful.

• Web 2.0 is better than ME 2.0
  
• Customer Loyalty — Why You Need It and How To Get It 
  

So, when was the last time an online friend made you feel special? How do you let your online contacts know how much they really mean to you?

What we forgot

I've often heard people say comments like "I've forgotten more than you'll ever know." Well a friend of mine when I was asking for advice reminded me how much I had actually forgotten. As we start moving forward and become fascinated with new technologies, we often neglect to continue doing the things that actually worked for us. I have seen this especially in 3D and web design with students, and myself, taking a long complicated route to get to a simple solution and then after hours of struggle realize that the best solution was only a mouse click away from the beginning.

We also see this in our personal and professional development as well. As blogging has expanded and social networks are where we spend too much of our time, we often forget the tried and true methods that actually helped us grow and develop. I used to read How, CA, and a few other magazines religiously but quit making time to spend an hour a day with the printed page. Those magazines are still out there, yet I forgot how truly useful they were. I used to work through three to four books a month on design and software. Now I spend half my day trying to locate an interesting online article while my library stands as a monument to another time. I used to go to Ad Fed meetings, Chamber gatherings, AIGA events, and Toastmasters meetings. now I send mass e-mail and post bulletins and hope someone might decide to look at them.

The point is that as we move forward in our knowledge and technology keeps advancing rapidly, the tools that worked should remain steadfast parts of our arsenal. Technology serves best when it enhances what we are already successfully doing, not when it simply replaces the old with the new.

Here are a few musts for any design student:

• How Magazine - http://www.howdesign.com
  
• Communication Arts - http://www.commarts.com
  
• American Institute of Graphic Artists - http://www.aiga.org
  
• National Association of PhotoShop Professionals - http://www.photoshopuser.com
• Creativity Magazine - http://www.creativity-online.com

Fear

This week’s theme seems to be fear. Fear of change, fear of loss, fear of intimacy, fear of success….fear of happiness. Fear is that subconscious barrier that keeps us stuck in our comfort zone regardless of how much we want to change. But change is going to happen and the question becomes, are we going to direct that change or become victims of it?
The problem with change is that it requires creating new habits. “We develop our habits and then are controlled by them.” “The only way to change a habit is to replace it with a new habit.” Replacing one habit with a new one is tough because our habits have served us well, helped define us, and provided us with a way of acting in most situations without having to think too much about it. If we are going to replace one habit with another, learn a new paradigm through which to understand and react to our world, then we basically have to kill part of the person we have become. And believe me, those endearing little habits don’t die easily or without a fight.

So what’s so wrong with our habits and are they really a way of hiding from our fears? 

• Example One: I have a friend who has allowed himself to get in the habit of checking on his wife, a bit too much. When checking up on her, he becomes concerned when she is acting in unexpected ways. This leads him to check more often and makes her feel like he doesn’t trust her. My friend knows that if he continues acting this way, he will eventually destroy the relationship and drive his wife away. But he continues to do it anyway.


• Example Two: I have a friend who continues to get into toxic relationships. She meets a seemingly nice person, enjoys the company and companionship for a while, but soon finds this person not caring for her in the way she thinks she deserves. This person seems to meet all of her relationships in the same places, is attracted to the same set of characteristics in her men, and let’s the relationships move forward at the same predictable pace. But every 6-18 months, there she is with her heart broken and wondering what went wrong.


• Example Three: I have students how claim to want to be successful. They work hard when in class, but when they go home, they either get wrapped up in other people’s drama or escape into the immersive world of online gaming. There is nothing wrong with either of these activities; however, when they come back to class, they wonder why some of their classmates are progressing much more rapidly than they are. Repeating this over twelve to eighteen months, the students who had so much desire and potential wake up to find that they are losing out on jobs to their less-talented peers.


• Example Four: We have recently started a Toastmasters club on campus. There are numerous students, faculty members, and staff who have attended a meeting or two and then say “But I don’t like having to speak in groups” and quit showing up. DUH! Isn’t that the purpose? These people know that others have grown because of this opportunity. They know they will be more successful in their careers, in their relationships, and in their lives if they develop self-confidence by improving their communications and leadership skills. These people would rather remain unfulfilled than commit to challenging themselves for a few hours a month in a friendly, positive environment.

I mention these examples, because I relate very well to them and have lived them at one point or another. We each have habits we use to limit and protect ourselves. Most of these habits served a purpose at one time but now keep us from getting what we really want and deserve. Instead of protecting us, they insulate us from the underlying fears that gnaw at our stomachs and keep us from living remarkable lives. It takes courage to create new habits, to acknowledge our fears, and to learn to control their influence in our life.

“Do what you fear the most and you control fear” – Richard Bach

So turn off the GPS and the cel phone and next time you want to look at your wife’s day planner, go give her a hug or write her a love note instead. Go out with someone who is completely different than the men you have gone out with in the past (an older gentleman who may not be quite so hot anymore but knows how to care, to listen, and to be supportive might be a place to start). Instead of hiding in video games, write three paragraphs for your new web site before you allow yourself the luxury of tuning out or getting high. Show up at a meeting, volunteer to give a speech, you’re not alone. Change does not require major effort or sacrifices. It requires developing new habits by doing little things on a regular basis until we develop new habits that lead us to success and happiness.

“At the end of our lives, it is the things we never did that we regret most.”- Harriet Beecher Stowe

Don’t let your fears ruin your marriage. Don’t let your fears keep you from finding the fulfilling relationship you always wanted. Don’t let your fears keep you from becoming the success you know you have the potential to become.
I understand, I’ve been there too, and for what its worth, I believe in you and know that you really can have everything you’ve always wanted out of life.

I once had a student

Once upon a time, in my first year teaching, I had a student who wanted to be a graphic designer. She did not have extraordinary talent, but she had passion and desire. Her husband "allowed" her to go back to school thinking that she would give up after a few months and then she would be quiet about wanting an education. When her husband refused to continue to pay for her education because she was definitely not going to quit, she had to borrow money from her grandmother to keep attending.

During her 8th month, she had a baby. She had the c-section after class on Thursday and had a friend drive her back to class the following Monday. She arranged with other friends ways to care for her newborn so she could attend class everyday, which she did.

When she finally graduated, her husband announced that she was a mother and her place was in the home with their child so he "forbade" her to go find a job and put her education to work. This student put out flyers everywhere she went and gave business cards to everyone she knew so that she could find a way to practice her craft even while she was at home.

Her first free-lance job or two did not go well. One she ended up getting stiffed on and the other was a web site that someone else re-built a few months later. This student came to me and said, I know I have had an education, but I need to learn more and then would stop by every week or two to borrow another book. The whole time she kept taking every freelance job she could get and after awhile she even started building some referral business.

After she won a few Addy awards while working out of her house, her husband finally admitted that she had a real profession and permitted her to go get a real job. Today, 6 and half years after graduation she was promoted to Creative Director for a highly respected design firm. Way to go Amber!!!

I share this because there is nothing more disheartening to a teacher than to see a person with real passion and talent either give up on themselves or let someone else stop them from becoming what they were meant to be. Real students and real designers and people with real dreams, do not let obstacles, circumstances, or other people keep them from living the life they were meant to lead. 

If you have a true passion, you are the only person who can truly prevent you from living it.


"The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone." Harriet Beecher Stowe